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« on: May 13, 2008, 09:20:27 PM » |
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This is one sticky situation.
What if your dad was once her aristo?
By Toyin Boyejo - SUNDAY TRIBUNE
When Lucy was in tertiary institution, she was one of the big girls on campus. The room she lived in was well furnished, she had a nice car, she was always impeccably dressed and had a lot of money to throw around. Not many people knew that she was from a poor background or that her parents lived in a remote village in Imo State. The life of affluence Lucy lived on campus was courtesy of her numerous sugar daddies or aristos, as they are popularly called. Whenever any of her aristos needed her services, Lucy would lie to her friends and colleagues that she was traveling to Abuja, Jos, Port Harcourt or wherever her contractor ‘dad’ was transacting his business at that particular point in time. So while she was busy prostituting herself in Abuja or Port Harcourt, her friends would think she had gone to collect money from her dad.
Being a brilliant girl, Lucy was able to graduate with a second class lower despite her frequent absences from school. At the completion of her studies, one of her aristos influenced her being posted to Lagos and also that she served in an Oil Company. At the end of her service year, the same man made sure she was retained at the company. Two years after joining the oil company, Lucy resigned her appointment in order to pursue her Masters degree abroad. It was while studying abroad that she met and fell in love with a young Nigerian, Kunle. Six months into their relationship, Kunle proposed to Lucy and she gladly accepted his marriage proposal.
The love birds decided to come to Nigeria to meet their respective parents before preparing for their wedding which they slated for the following year. They came to Nigeria and went to Lucy’s village in Imo State. There, Kunle was warmly accepted by Lucy’s parents who were happy that their daughter had chosen to marry a Nigerian and not a white man. The following week, it was Kunle’s turn to introduce his fiancée to his parents. When they got there, his mother was the only one at home. The woman was so happy that her son was now ready to settle down that she accepted Lucy with open arms. Shortly after their arrival, Kunle’s father breezed in, his son introduced his fiancée to his father who greeted the young lady coldly then excused himself from the gathering. He however asked Kunle to see him before his departure.
When it was time to leave, Kunle went to his father’s room to say his goodbye. On getting there, his father told him point blank that he could not marry Lucy. Kunle asked his father for the reason but he refused to say anything. He however insisted that if Kunle decided to marry Lucy against his wish, he would not attend their wedding and would also disown him. When they got back to Kunle’s apartment, Lucy who had read the handwriting on the wall confessed to Kunle that his dad was once her aristo. She explained that she engaged in the practice to keep soul and body together, since her parents were so poor they could barely pay her school fees. Kunle told Lucy that he could no longer marry her. He explained that if it had been another man, he would not have minded but since the man in question was his dad and had even threatened to disown him if he went ahead with the wedding, they have to call it quits. That was how their relationship ended.
Relationships asks: If you were in Kunle’s shoes, would you give up your love, if you discovered she once dated your dad?
Seun Oke: There is nobody without a past. I dated some ladies before I met her and knew she would have had relationships with other men before I met her. Since I love her, I will continue with the relationship and even marry her.
Morebise Sunday: If I love the girl, I’ll not let go of her. I will put it in the past where it belonged so that both of us can face the future together. I will also forgive my dad for dating a girl who was several years younger than him.
Kehinde Akinfenwa: Personally, I will put an end to the relationship because there is no guarantee that both of them would not continue their affair even after I might have married the lady.
Pastor Adeleke: I can not continue with the relationship especially if my dad is still alive. Each time I see both of them together, I would remember they were once lovers and that would cause me a lot of heart ache.
Akin Ojo: I will first ask the lady why she engaged in such an act and if she gave a good reason, I’ll forgive and forget most especially if she had turned a new leaf before I met her. I will definitely marry her.
Yemi Olajide: If my dad did not sleep with her, I can continue with the relationship but if he had had carnal knowledge of the lady, I will have to call it quits. This is due to the fact that it is an abomination for father and son to sleep with the same woman.
Ayobami Ojo: I will have to let go of the lady to avoid heartache because each time I remember that my father had once slept with my wife, my heart will bleed, it will definitely cause me great agony.
Seun Adebayo: I will sit her down and find out from her why she lived a wayward life. If I’m okay with her reason, I’ll pardon her on the condition that such a thing will never repeat itself.
Segun Adegbite: It is a critical matter which must be handled with care. If I love the lady and if I’m privy to the fact that she once led a wayward life, I will continue with the relationship. But if she had given me the impression that she had led a chaste life before I met her, I will send her away immediately I learn the truth.
Abiodun Ojo: I don’t think I can stand the thought of marrying a woman who had once dated my dad. We will have to call it quits.
Ayo Aloba: If the lady is the will of God for my life, I will see it as a cross that I must bear but if not, she has to go.
Timothy Adams: In a case like this, ignorance is bliss. If I don’t know about it, it wont hurt me but once I’m aware of it, I’ll put an end to the relationship.
Seun Adegbite: In this type of situation, God will have to intervene. I will go to God in prayer and if He says I should go ahead with the relationship, I will.
Lola Akano: One has to be patient and listen to the voice of God. If he says she is my wife, so be it. If not, she will have to go.
What would you do?
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